Considering Abortion? : Abortion Questions Answered
How Will I Feel After My Abortion
Just as every woman is different so are each woman’s reactions and feelings after an abortion. However, many women report experiencing one or more of the symptoms below.
- Anger – toward yourself or others involved in the decision
- Shame – the need to keep the abortion a secret
- Feelings of isolation, that you’re the only one
- Difficulty sleeping
- Nightmares or flashbacks
- Self-destructive behaviors (drinking, drug use, increase in unsafe sexual practices)
- Preoccupation with fertility issues
- Avoidance behavior – avoiding anything to do with babies, abortion, etc.
- Bonding issues with existing children
- Trust issues with your spouse or partner
It’s common for people’s attitude toward their abortion to change over time. One woman might initially feel relieved and confident about her decision, but later feel isolated and depressed. Another woman may feel overwhelmed with shame at first but gradually accept her decision.
Many people find that abortion-related issues come and go. For instance anniversary dates, such as the date of the abortion or when the pregnancy would have been full term, sometimes trigger nightmares or depression.
Sometimes significant life events can impact how women feel about their abortion. The death of a family member, breaking up with a partner, the birth of subsequent children—some women report thinking more about their abortion after events like these.
If you have recently had an abortion and are experiencing negative symptoms like the ones listed above, Avenue Women’s Center can help. First, read about caring for yourself after an abortion. Next, sign up for a quarterly email about coping and recovery. Finally, if you would like to seek professional post-abortion care visit Restore After Abortion, a service of Avenue Women’s Center.