Am I Pregnant? : We Can Help
How Will They React?
Have you been keeping your unplanned pregnancy a secret? There are many reasons why women prefer to keep their pregnancy a secret, but the most common one is fear. Telling people about your pregnancy is a difficult thing to do, especially when it is unplanned. Will people be supportive? What if they’re unkind? Will they put more pressure on me? How will they react?
People’s first reactions can be the hardest to cope with. The professional staff at Avenue Women’s Center can help you navigate how, when, where, and who to tell about your unplanned pregnancy. Schedule an appointment to meet with one of our staff members to help you prepare to tell others about your pregnancy.
People may respond to news of your pregnancy in a number of ways. Here are the most common reactions.
People may be excited for you and the child. “I’m so happy for you!” “Congratulations!” “This is incredible news, I am so happy.”
A happy response can get awkward if you haven’t made your decision yet, but at Avenue Women's Center we believe it’s important to include key people in your decision making. This allows you to get their actual reaction and not just make plans based on their predicted reaction. Contact Avenue for assistance preparing for awkward/overjoyed reactions to you news.
People cannot believe that you are pregnant; it is a total surprise. “Really?!” “Wow, this is big news.” “But we used protection…” “Don't you know how this happens?”
Shock is natural—you may have felt shocked yourself when that first test came back positive. Shock that turns into ridicule is very hurtful, especially if it comes from someone who is close to you. Avenue Women's Center can help you plan for a shocked reaction. Contact us today to schedule an appointment at one of our five office locations.
People are upset with you for being pregnant. “How could you let this happen?” “You’re not allowed in this house anymore.” “I can’t deal with this right now!”
Anger is probably the scariest reaction. If you think you might receive an angry response from someone you love—especially if you might be in physical danger or lose essential support, such as housing or access to medical care—please contact Avenue. No one should pressure or shame you into a decision. Our professional and caring staff can help you make a safety plan or learn about additional support resources.
People are concerned for you or the baby. “How will you support this child?” “We don’t have the money to raise a baby.” “But you’re so young…”
A worried reaction sounds negative, but often comes from people who want the best for you. You can help diffuse a worried reaction by learning about the options and resources available to you. Avenue Women's Center can give you information and help you prepare for this conversation at any of our five DuPage County locations.
People are let down by the news of your pregnancy. “You’re not even married…” “I expected more from you than this.” “You’re giving up all your plans in life for this?”
Some people’s reactions will be more about themselves than about you. They may be worried about how your pregnancy reflects on their own image. At Avenue Women's Center, you can learn how to respond to a disappointed reaction and encourage your loved ones to support your decision (or support you during your decision-making process). Contact us today about making an appointment.
People are calm and loving about your revelation and focus on you instead of themselves. “How are you feeling about this?” “Thank you for telling me.” “What can I do to help you?” “I have confidence in you; things will be OK.”
At Avenue Women's Center, we hope that everyone has at least one person in their life who will accept them with encouragement, listening, and love. We aim to provide this kind of support and acceptance to everyone who comes through our doors. If you’re not sure where to go for help with your pregnancy, we invite you to make Avenue your first step. Contact us today for information about a free appointment.