Unexpectedly Pregnant and Fearing Disappointment
“I’m not mad, I’m disappointed.” These infamous words are uttered by our loved ones when we’ve messed up somehow—big time. We let them down, and their disappointment can cause both them and us to feel hurt, sad, and frustrated. There’s often ways to overcome disappointment, but it can be more challenging to move past in some cases. What if you’re unexpectedly pregnant and fearing disappointment from your parents, loved ones, or your partner? How do you share your pregnancy news and handle possible disappointment from your loved ones—or even yourself?
If you or someone you know is concerned about an unexpected pregnancy, let Avenue Women’s Center be your first step forward. Our goal is to meet a woman’s needs as she faces a pregnancy decision. For nearly 40 years, we’ve provided services such as medical-grade pregnancy tests and options consultations to women in the Chicagoland area, all at no cost. Contact us today for your free appointment!
Disappointment with an Unexpected Pregnancy
While an unexpected pregnancy can be good news for some women, it can also be earth-shattering to others. “How could I let this happen?” is a common question many women ask themselves, wondering what more they could have done to prevent a pregnancy. You might be disappointed in yourself or with your partner for becoming pregnant, and feeling disheartened about future plans. There could be a lot of tough emotions flowing through you—before you begin to tell anyone.
Facing your own disappointment can be hard enough, let alone thinking about how your loved ones or your partner will react to your pregnancy news. Whether you’re a teenager or an adult, telling your parents and family members about an unexpected pregnancy can be difficult. Even as adults, we don’t want to disappoint those who care most about us. You can end up feeling like you failed their hopes for you, or broke their trust if they didn’t know you were sexually active. If they were just going to be angry, that might be one thing. Anger can subside, it can ease and pass with time. But disappointment can have a way of lingering in our relationships with others, and sometimes takes longer to work through. Yet, it isn’t impossible. Disappointment can be an opportunity to rebuild and strengthen a relationship, bringing more honesty and openness between you and your loved ones or your partner. Any strong emotion can be hard to face at first, but how we choose to handle it can make all the difference in moving forward.
Moving Past Disappointment in a Pregnancy Decision
You might fear your loved ones’ judgment in your pregnancy situation, or worry that their disappointment will impact the options you’re considering. Before you share your pregnancy news, it can be helpful to first look into your options of parenting, adoption, or abortion. You might already be considering one over others, but maybe you don’t have all the facts just yet. Take on your pregnancy decision armed with information. You may feel like you aren’t in the best of circumstances, and learning more about each of your options can be a vital step towards moving past any possible feelings of disappointment. Your pregnancy decision is ultimately just yours to make, and one that you should feel good about .
At Avenue Women’s Center, we understand that an unexpected pregnancy can sometimes be disappointing news. Take the first steps of your decision at one of our five locations in DuPage County. Our caring client advocates will go over each of your pregnancy options in a private, nonjudgmental, and compassionate environment. We take the time to listen and address each of your concerns, while offering you accurate and reliable information about your pregnancy options. Call, text, chat, or email us today for your free appointment!