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Feeling Torn Between Pregnancy Options

An inner tug-of-war battle takes place with a lot of life’s big decisions. It can feel like we’re being yanked back and forth as we weigh the options in front of us. Maybe your heart is pulling you in one direction while your mind tugs you toward another. You might feel like you’re in the middle of a tug-of-war with yourself if you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy decision. Part of you may be thinking about an abortion as another part of you wonders about continuing the pregnancy. How can you make a decision when you feel torn between your pregnancy options?

“I’m Pregnant with No One to Talk To”

I’m single and a recent college graduate who’s living on my own. I just started my dream job. I have been feeling so fulfilled, independent, and proud of all I’ve accomplished. Since I recently moved to a new city, I have few friends—no one I would call a close friend. My parents live in another state, and we’re not that close anyway. Everything has been moving along so well … until now. I just found out that I’m pregnant. I feel like I have no one to talk to about this unexpected news.

Thinking About Abortion Later in a Pregnancy

For some women, an unexpected pregnancy can be especially surprising. The signs and symptoms might be not be significant, and the news can come as a shock later in a pregnancy. Maybe irregular periods are common, or menstruation cycles frequently skip altogether. If you find out you’re pregnant later on, how does it affect your options, such as parenting or adoption? What if you’re considering an abortion? What are your abortion options and alternatives?

The Blame Game of an Unexpected Pregnancy

When shocking news of an unexpected pregnancy hits, it can sometimes lead to a blame game between partners. Accusations can start to fly as you try to wrap your heads around the news. Maybe you did everything you could to prevent this situation and feel like your partner is to blame. Or maybe your partner is blaming you for becoming pregnant. While it’s easy to get caught up in the blame game with an unexpected pregnancy situation, it won’t change the fact that a decision lies ahead. How do you end the blaming and focus on your pregnancy decision?

”My Little Sister Told Me She’s Pregnant”

Are you feeling like you’re too young to be pregnant? Are you wondering who you should tell? Or if you should even confide in anyone at all? Are you afraid of how your parents, siblings, or other loved ones might respond? As an older sister to a 17-year-old, I can tell you that I would want my younger sister to tell me if she was pregnant. I know that she would be afraid to disappoint me, but, the truth is, I would understand. And, even more important, I would want to be there for her.